Inner Debt

When I hear the word "inner debt" --I'm not sure if that's the right translation of "utang na loob", I may say that the person telling that-- must have thought he has done something gigantically for your benefit.

Well, let's just say that if a person is willing to help, he should not expect something in return. Do you help a person in the basis that he'll help you someday?

For example: Promotion - if someone is promoted it is based on his merits because the one who recommended him thinks that he can be an asset to an institution. That is normal support for the knowledge that if the person is promoted or hired it will benefit the institution .I think the concept of inner debt arises when the person expects repayment for EXTRA FAVORS and the person given favor will be bound forever to be thankful . There's the conflict because you cannot own others in your mind. Get rid of the illusion that just because someone work with or for somebody, that someone owe that somebody, something.

I only have one life and to let someone take control even if that someone thinks I owe anything to him IS REALLY FOOLISH.